Provoked--Who's the culprit?

Success breeds success---there’s nothing like it, but what success surely does is it lits a hope that has the power to lighten the dark corridors of ignorance and defeat behind the closed doors where very few have dared to venture in. Here goes a story of a beleaguered wife,Kiranjit Singh Ahluwalia who has been suffering at the hands of her husband for 10 long years.She doesn’t command any respect whatsoever from her other half whereas he demands all the respect from her. Chasing white women, having lengthy drinking sessions and the last thing that can ever be done viz, raping your own wife in the midst of the house corridors are a few traits of her husband’s personality. She’s always on the mercy of her husband’s few dollars that he lends her (I use the word “lend” here to emphasize the kind of relationship the couple had) Finally her patience broke loose and she did what is never expected of an Indian wife, sets her alive husband on fire, rather accidently.
After going through the above stated condition of the woman, this eventuality would be justified for many of us, reading this. But Kiranjit Singh Ahluwalia is no name we need to be proud of and she certainly is not a name that can be done away with. As I say this, don’t get me wrong cos there are a few instances in the movie where she finds herself in a better position than most others (of the same kind) would have found themselves in. The point I’m trying to make here is, why depend on luck or circumstances when you can do yourself much good by knowing about your rights beforehand? Kiranjit Singh Ahluwalia, being of Indian origin she had the peer pressure to get herself married off and have a family ASAP. Point taken, we do have a social structure where the girls are not supposed to learn more, as she is completely seen as a house maker and not a bread earner. But what the parents have failed to realize all this while the need to inculcate the importance of knowing a women’s state of well being in a society. A wife is as important as a husband in a relationship, a girl is as important as a boy and a home maker is as important as a bread earner, if not more. The system fails to make us realize the fact that we need to respect women at par with any other man. A girl child is hardly allowed to pursue her dream career, on the contrary she is made a scapegoat for all the anger venting that does happen.
Overhualing of the system overnight can only bring our nightmares come true but a start needs to be made to bring things in order. I propose here a change that can be a lot of relief to a girl….do away with changing the surname of a girl when she gets married. This ensures that she has not undergone any identity change but a role change. This way she identifies herself as the same girl she always has been throughout her life. She doesn’t have to look up to her husband to provide a sense of security that he’s supposedly deemed to provide, for she has always been supporting herself in her pre marital life. It is for the women in the house to make their girl child understand her rights, so that not many incidents like the one mentioned above takes place. As Kiranjit Singh Ahluwalia rightly utters at the concluding part of her struggle “I’m not the complete picture, on the contrary I’m a small part of the bigger picture”
Well those who were reading this expecting a comment on the movie making would have been utterly disappointed after going through this. I’m no armchair expert to comment on the style of movie making as I hardly know anything about how important is a spot boy to the production unit, to comment on anything as big a movie would be like walking on a battlefield bare handed just hoping that I befriend a few on the other side of ma faction. What I really loved was the way the topic was handled and eventually shaped up to make a movie out of a real instance. This topic has always been close to me and I have just tried to bring forth the plight of a married woman.So, do we have a few serious questions to ask ourselves? Well you know it better!