Treading the Line

I ain’t no expert on human psychology to comment on something that I wish to touch here. Thoughts have been crossing my mind about the power of being “non-judgmental”, about being “rational”, about being a “moderate” .This all sounds pretty much boring to you (Yes, I am indeed talking to you because I value what you think when you read my stuff) but this has been something which has been hitting on probably every part of my communication with the external environment.

I will start with something as trivial as using a “good” instead of a “best”. Just follow this simple exercise where you replace all superlatives with their relatively poorer-as-they-sound comparative counterparts. You will soon be able to see the difference. It becomes more acceptable to the person who is taking it. It becomes more substantial. It sounds more genuine. And most importantly it is something which you really meant. Even in a compliment this leaves a scope for a person to improve (believe me travelling from a good to a best is no easy job if you are really taking the journey) I, for once had this idea of using superlatives the moment I had to comment on a thing be it living/non living. But lately I have been giving it a thought for instance if I say, "You are one of the best things to happen to me!" Did I really mean that? Have I ever thought before this moment of all the things that have happened to me leave alone about being able to differentiate between good or bad? (It’s not something that I can’t distinguish between good or bad) but I certainly can’t say what the best is. And when I say best I am acting such a pessimist by thinking that probably all the things that are waiting to happen to me will be sub this. So what exactly is my idea of putting it the way I have done? Are there some vested interests playing their role behind this coming out of me? Am I trying flattery to deceive? Whereas a “You are one of the good things to have happened to me” has all the right things about it. No air, no fuss, no pretence; just a genuine little feeling that pops out right from my heart. Here I have also done some of the things the right way. I have stayed moderate no matter how good that thing was, I have kept up my rational stand although a brief span of irrationality did bother my tiny rational cells (I will term the rational cells as tiny and for this moment even less powerful than their irrational counterparts because in this tussle they still are the underdogs) and I was certainly “Non judgmental as I did not judge between what was the best or say good for me. I feel good for myself (look! It’s again good)This also helps you when you are making choices and making recos.It makes you come across as a person who knows what he says, one who is measured and one who means what he says.

Well, lastly I wish to say that I have nothing against the superlative beings(as human beings).It’s just that I feel I still have sometime before I start using them, before I start feeling their weight and before I really start meaning them. What I am practicing today with them is a complete injustice to the way they were meant to be used as, a trial and error approach where by I throw it and hope that it sticks, if it doesn’t I throw it again and expect it sticks this time. Long before I loose the weight of my comments(how-so-ever little it may be)I guess I realized it that it ain’t my cup of tea as yet .For the moment though good is good enough for me!